Participate in “Real Dialogues” Hangout Today!

We’re excited to invite you to participate in the most exciting phase yet of the Real Dialogues project, their very first Google+ Hangout discussion! You may remember that the Real Dialogues D&D reality show was one of the winners of NCDD’s Catalyst Awards, and we are proud to see the project entering its production phase! Now you can participate in the project yourself by joining the conversation.

This first dialogue starts Tuesday, October 29th, at 5pm Central so make sure to email realdialogues@gmail.com immediately to sign up! They are specifically seeking participants from Illinois, so please also tell your IL friends about this great opportunity by having them check out the announcement below or pointing them to the original post on Real Dialogues’ website here.


Real Dialogues Fall Update: Entering Production Phase

After months of design work and preparation, our Catalyst Award project is finally entering its production phase!

We will be using Google+ Hangouts to host three rounds of facilitated small-group dialogues online on the issue of employment and the minimum wage in the greater Chicago, IL area:

  • The first Hangout is for our participants to get to know each other and to explain and hear about their employment situations.
  • The second Hangout will feature interviews with Conservative, Liberal and Alternative experts, who will also drop in to answer questions.
  • The third Hangout aims to tie it all together: what have people learned, have they changed their perspectives, and will this affect their lives?

This first Hangout takes place Tuesday, October 29 at 5pm Central Time (that’s 3pm Pacific, 6pm Eastern).

We are very pleased to welcome Susanna Haas Lyons as our facilitator. Susanna will be facilitating a group of people from the Chicago area to discuss work and the minimum wage. They include employees, employers, minimum wage workers, unemployed job seekers and other people interested in the issue.

Participants wanted

We have a couple of spaces left for Illinois-based people to participate! If you live in Illinois and want to join, email realdialogues@gmail.com immediately, so we can get you set up.

Audience welcome

Anyone can watch this Hangout and use the new Google+ Q&A feature to ask the participants questions (to ask a question or comment, you will be instructed to join or sign in to Google+).

Civic Health Clubs and… the Revolution?

I am excited to share with you today an innovative project that I’ve been involved with in my community that is an interesting twist on connecting people through shared conversations.  The project is led by Evan Weissman, a local teacher, actor, and civic entrepreneur who has been working for over a year now to found a “civic health club” in Denver, Colorado called Warm Cookies of the Revolution – an effort that hopes to offer “an antidote to the loneliness that comes with Facebook and other online interactions” in today’s world.

I have been involved in various ways with Warm Cookies for a while now and have been able to talk with Weissman about the vision for his civic health club, so I’m happy to be able to share what I’ve learned with the NCDD community.

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What is a civic health club, you ask? Weissman answers, “Say you go to the gym for your physical health, and to a house of worship for your spiritual health, and maybe a therapist for mental health. Shouldn’t you have a place where you can go for civic health?”  So, as its website says, “Warm Cookies is where you go to exercise your civic health.”

As many of us know from our work, there are always people who want to connect with others who care about their communities, engage in conversations, find out about different points of view, or find organizations that need volunteers. But as we also know, it can often be hard to find a place to go to satisfy those wants and needs.  So as a civic health club, Warm Cookies of the Revolution seeks to be that place.

But what’s with the name? It’s a question Weissman gets often. For starters, every event that Warm Cookies of the Revolution hosts offers free cookies and milk to participants. But the name is part of a deeper philosophy that Weissman and Warm Cookies hold about the need for deep, far-reaching change in our democracy. Thinking about what change like that could look like can be daunting and even a bit scary, so that’s why the “warm cookies” are there — Weissman wants these conversations to be accessible and fun:

What are the warm cookies of the revolution? What is comforting, enjoyable, desirable about the revolution? What will make the revolution appeal to regular folks that are scared by that word? Is there room for humor in the revolution? What sustains us as we work toward the revolution?

…People either spend their time on things that are necessary, like work and chores, or things that are fun. And just because something is compelling doesn’t mean that people will pay for a babysitter and come to discuss a civic issue. But if it’s fun, they will come… Most people react with a giggle to the name, and that’s important. For people interested in the fun stuff we do, they know there’s a civic purpose as well. And for the people interested in civic change, it’s important for them to understand that fun definitely is part of it.

So in addition to providing cookies at every event, Warm Cookies events are intentionally made to be part serious civic conversation, part fun social gathering. For one of its first events, Warm Cookies put on an event called “Bring Your Government“, where three different speakers — a Colorado senator, a former candidate for Denver mayor, and a local comedian — shared their thoughts on what their ideal government would look like, and steps for how we might get there. At the same time, participants were invited to collaborate on building a Lego city.

That is the feel of many Warm Cookies events: real conversation, but mixed with something fun to occupy participants’ hands or bring them together around food or a shared activity. It is an attempt to embody the reality that if we are really going to have a dramatic shift in our democracy, we are going to need to know our neighbors.

In addition to the “Bring Your Government” format, Warm Cookies has developed a number of flagship types of events that it hosts on a recurring basis, including:

  • The Civic Stitch ‘N Bitch initiates conversations on civic subjects are encouraged while participants get together to knit, crochet, sew, or do another hand craft.
  • Pie, Pie, and Pie Charts in which participants enjoy pizza, pie, and discuss current economic issues.
  • Sunday School for Atheists is a time for discussing issues of values, morality, and their role in society outside of the normal religious context.
  • The Huddle encourages participants to take time outs while they watch the Thursday night football game to discuss the social issues that revolve around professional sports.
  • and the Intergenerational Mixtape Show & Tell, where participants of all ages bring objects and music representative of their generation to discuss what it means to them, as well as the roles of different generations play in our society. (I personally worked on creating the first event of this kind with Weissman and we’re looking forward to doing more soon!)

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The civic health club idea has been catching on and attendance at the events has been growing. Weissman and his partners with Warm Cookies of the Revolution are working to open up a brick and mortar location for the club within a year that will house more frequent civic gatherings and events and, of course, offer free warm cookies.

Opening the space is part of the larger vision to make civic health clubs, as an important infrastructure for growing our communities’ capacity to really practice democracy, a more regular part of our cities and towns. As Weissman says,

The truth is, there’s a sports bar on every corner, shopping malls in every town, theaters and comedy clubs. How about one place you know you can go for some fun and to learn how and why you can take part in civic life? Like my friend Stephen Handen says, ‘You don’t learn to swim by reading a book.’ We have to exercise our civic health. There has to be an action component.

I am excited to see Warm Cookies growing in my community, and we at NCDD are quite impressed with the creativity and innovativeness of this new way of getting our communities talking.  We will be following the way that Warm Cookies of the Revolution shapes up with great interest, and we encourage you to do the same!

You can find out more about the new Denver civic health club at their website, www.WarmCookiesOfTheRevolution.org. You can contact Weissman and his team at info@warmcookiesoftherevolution.org.  You can also learn more by checking out the Colorado publications that have written about Warm Cookies and Evan’s thoughts herehere, and here.

Long live the civic health revolution!

Joan Blades Interview from NCDD Seattle

At the 2012 NCDD national conference in Seattle, NCDD member and filmmaker Jeffrey Abelson sat down with over a dozen leaders in our community to ask them about their work and their hopes and concerns for our field and for democratic governance in our country.

Today we’re featuring the interview with Joan Blades, who is well-known for her roles as co-founder of MoveOn.org and MomsRising.org. Joan is also the co-creator of Living Room Conversations.

Watch the blog over the next couple of months for more videos from NCDD Seattle, which brought together 400 leaders and innovators in our field.  You can also check out Jeffrey Abelson’s Song of a Citizen YouTube channel and in our NCDD 2012 Seattle playlist on YouTube.

Advanced Stakeholder Workshop from Vivien Twyford

This post was submitted by Cassie Hemphill via our Submit-to-Blog Form. Do you have field news you want to share with the rest of us? Just click here to submit your news post for the NCDD Blog!

First time in the US! Join us in Missoula, MT, November 7 and 8 for Twyfords‘ “Collaborating in Complex Times: Advanced Stakeholder Engagement.”

Register at www.collaboratingincomplextimes-estw.eventbrite.com.

Go beyond traditional models of engagement. Explore ways to engage multiple stakeholders with different perspectives and strong interests in co-creating enduring solutions to complex dilemmas. Learn new strategies to avoid or manage potential challenges and risks to your projects. Topics include:

  • Collaborative leadership
  • “Wicked problems”
  • Complexity theory
  • Cynefin framework
  • The paradox of power
  • The appreciative approach to positive change
  • How collaboration creates cohesion and alleviates fragmentation
  • The Collaborative Governance framework
  • Presenting a business case for collaboration
  • Collaboration skills

Register before October 11 for best rate.

Co-sponsored by the IAP2 Intermountain Chapter; University of Montana College of Forestry and Conservation, Bolle Center for Forests and People; and Montana Communications.

Reducing Incivility in Ohio Legislature

In the face of the ongoing government shutdown, the topic of incivility in our political sphere has, unfortunately, become keenly relevant again in our national discourse.  That is why we were especially encouraged to see a recent article from the Akron Beacon Journal featuring a new effort aimed at increasing civility in the Ohio state legislature that offers a least a bit of hope.

State Sen. Frank LaRose has partnered with our friends at the National Institute for Civil Discourse (an NCDD organizational member) to initiate a program for legislators that will emphasize them doing the people’s business with less ire. Here’s hoping it works.  You can read the full article below or find it on the NICD’s website here.


State legislators begin effort to reduce incivility in politics

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Facing dismissive, even hostile, comments from colleagues, 11 Ohio legislators met in a closed-door Statehouse session Tuesday morning.

Their topic: incivility and what can be done about it.

“I think there’s a real problem in how conversations take place,” state Rep. Kathleen Clyde, D-Kent, said after leaving the meeting. “The lack of civility can be an intimidating environment to come into.”

Sen. Frank LaRose, R-Copley Township, who is working with the National Institute for Civil Discourse, called the meeting.

He described the meeting as the first of “an ongoing conversation among colleagues dedicated to improving the civil discourse in our legislature so that we can better serve the citizens of Ohio.”

LaRose said the group agreed to hold three or four meetings a year and take the following steps:

  • Form district exchanges with legislators from different parties meeting with the public in each other’s district. Lawmakers from urban districts would meet in rural districts and vice versa. LaRose said the goal is to gain greater familiarity with opposing candidates.
  • New-member orientation after the next election would include information on civility and perhaps workshops.
  • Encourage social interaction that includes members of both parties. A lack of familiarity means legislators don’t understand each other as well and are less likely to compromise, LaRose said.

LaRose previously discussed civility at a Council of State Governments regional meeting in Madison, Wis., in August and at a meeting of legislators sponsored by the Ohio Chamber of Commerce at Salt Fork State Park on Sept. 6.

He and former state Rep. Ted Celeste also will make a presentation at the Council of State Governments’ national meeting in Kansas City, Mo.

Bipartisan effort

Of the 11 who participated Tuesday, six are Republicans and five are Democrats.

LaRose said he sent two emails and a paper notice of the meeting to all legislators. He was not disappointed in the turnout, he said, because the General Assembly is not in session, a change from when he first scheduled the meeting.

Those who did come said they heard skepticism about civility efforts from other lawmakers.

LaRose said a couple of lawmakers told him they heard from some of their colleagues “at least dismissive — if not outright hostile — attitudes toward it.”

“But I didn’t hear who was saying that, nor would I really even want to know,” he said. “But I think some folks think that, ‘Well, this is just an esoteric idea, creating civility. However are you going to do that?’ ”

Principles maintained

LaRose said he will continue to argue that the project is constructive without compromising principles.

He said some people make the mistake of thinking that “civility” means lessening an aggressive defense of what a politician believes.

“You can still be an ardent supporter of a particular policy stance without being mean-spirited, or personal or negative or unfair in how you characterize each others’ views,” LaRose said.

Clyde said Ohioans are paying a price for political incivility.

She said that because of stridence between lawmakers, “a lot of legislation passes that is too extreme, that we are not together on.”

She also suggested that some witnesses before legislative committees appear to be less than open in their testimony for fear of attack and that some talented candidates might be choosing not to run because they don’t want to subject themselves and their families to incivility.

LaRose tried to put the issue into historical perspective, citing an example of a U.S. congressman who was caned on the House floor and the troubles during the Civil War.

But he added, “Things are bad and there is room for improvement.”

Safe districts

Asked about causes, LaRose cited legislative boundaries as a problem because they create candidates in “safe” districts that are dominated by a single party. He also he said term limits put legislators out of office just when they have gained experience for how to get along with political opponents.

The Beacon Journal is a participant along with three universities and the faith community in the ongoing Ohio Civility Project. Newspaper stories and a survey of area residents found a profound disgust with incivility on the part of politicians, the media and public in general.

Migrant Farmworkers Project (Featured D&D Story)

We are happy to share another great example of dialogue and deliberation in action, the Migrant Farmworkers Reading Project. This mini case study was submitted by Sarah Wenzlick via NCDD’s new Dialogue Storytelling Tool, which we recently launched to collect stories from our members about their work.

We know that there are plenty of other stories from our NCDD members out there that can teach key insights about working in dialogue, deliberation, and engagement. We want to hear them! Please add YOUR dialogue story today, and let us learn from you!


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Migrant Farmworkers Reading Project

Description

High school students from Oxbridge visit with the children of migrant farmworkers every other Friday to help them with homework and reading. The children are elementary students in the Lake Worth, FL area–an area with a large migrant population that follows the different agricultural harvests depending on the growing season. Oxbridge’s students help to encourage the elementary school students to focus on their academics, the importance of staying in school, trying your best, becoming bilingual, and show them that many people care about their progress.

We’ve seen an enormous increase in attendance from the elementary students, great enthusiasm and energy from Oxbridge’s students, and improvement in reading (aloud) abilities both in Spanish and in English from both sets of children.

Which dialogue and deliberation approaches did you use or borrow heavily from?

  • Intergroup Dialogue
  • Compassionate Listening

What was your role in the project?

Organizer, Facilitator

What issues did the project primarily address?

  • Race and racism
  • Economic issues
  • Education
  • Immigration
  • Youth issues

Lessons Learned

My students have gained a better understanding of what other peoples’ lives are like, especially those of young migrant farmworkers. They have become more appreciative of what they have, such luxuries as constant transportation, parents with stable jobs, access to technology, access to food and clothing, among other things.

Disaporas in Dialogue (Featured D&D Story)

Today we’d like to feature another great example of dialogue and deliberation in action, the Diasporas in Dialogue project. This mini case study was submitted by Dr. Barbara Tint via NCDD’s new Dialogue Storytelling Tool, which we recently launched to collect stories from our members about their work.

We know that there are plenty of other stories from our NCDD members out there that can teach key insights about working in dialogue, deliberation, and engagement. We want to hear them! Please add YOUR dialogue story today, and let us learn from you!


D&D stories logoTitle of Project:

Diasporas in Dialogue

Description

This project consisted of four years of work conducting assessment, dialogue groups, dialogue training, and community reconciliation capacity-building efforts in multiple African diaspora communities in Portland, Oregon, USA. Predicated on the belief that historical conflicts from home regions were travelling with migrant populations and being left unattended in the diaspora, we saw the need and the opportunity to provide a safe forum for community members to come together to address their fractured past, their difficult present, and their uncertain future.

The African Diaspora Dialogue Project (ADDP), generously supported by the Andrus Family Fund, was a collaboration between the Conflict Resolution Graduate Program at Portland State University and the Immigrant and Refugee Community Organization, serving Oregon and Washington.

The outcomes of the project included transformed communities, healed relationships, new joint ventures and coalitions among community members, newly trained in-community dialogue facilitators and a book about the work.

Which dialogue and deliberation approaches did you use or borrow heavily from?

  • Appreciative Inquiry
  • Public Conversations Project dialogue
  • Sustained Dialogue
  • Technology of Participation approaches
  • Intergroup Dialogue
  • Restorative Justice approaches

What was your role in the project?

Founder and Director of the Project. Dialogue facilitator. Author of the book.

What issues did the project primarily address?

  • Partisan divide
  • Immigration
  • Youth issues

Lessons Learned

  • Dialogue was successful and transformative.
  • Participants were yearning for new skills and knowledge around these issues and often wanted teaching along with dialogue.
  • Recruitment took much longer than expected and was initially challenging due to suspicions and complicated identity affiliations.
  • We needed deeper understanding of community needs and desires. Some of our initial thinking had been challenged by what we learned in dialogue.
  • Organization and logistics were extremely difficult.
  • Everything took much more time than we expected.
  • We needed more time for planning and reflection.
  • As groups had been conducted in English, our ability to involve certain community members was limited.
  • Status differences in dialogue groups (age, gender, community role) could be both an asset and a challenge.
  • Community members felt empowered and engaged through this process, and many emerged as leaders for reconciliation.
  • Working with youth was an important and powerful dimension of reconciliation within the diaspora.
  • The elders in the communities were invaluable in contributing to the success of the project.
  • Dialogue facilitation was a deeper skill than we could effectively train for in the time we had allowed.
  • Other community and refugee groups from different regions were also interested in participating in dialogue.
  • Ripeness and readiness had a great deal to do with who engaged and benefited from the process.

Where to learn more about the project:

For more information about the Diasporas in Dialogue project and book, please see www.pdx.edu/research/profile/dialogues-deep-change and www.pdx.edu/diasporas-in-dialogue/

Palestinian-Jewish Living Room Dialogues (Featured D&D Story)

Today we’d like to feature another great example of dialogue and deliberation in action, the Palestinian-Jewish Living Room Dialogue project. This mini case study was submitted by Libby and Len Traubman via NCDD’s new Dialogue Storytelling Tool, which we recently launched to collect stories from our members about their work.

We know that there are plenty of other stories from our NCDD members out there that can teach key insights about working in dialogue, deliberation, and engagement. We want to hear them! Please add YOUR dialogue story today, and let us learn from you!


Title of Project: D&D stories logo Face-to-Face Palestinian-Jewish Living Room Dialogue: crossing oceans to help others engage

Description
Since 1992 and during 254 meetings, our local handful of women and men — Muslims, Jews, and Christians — continue learning to listen and learn from one another while initiating hundreds of outreach activities across the nation and overseas to help other “adversaries” to successfully communicate and experience that “an enemy is one whose story we have not heard.”

Initial incentive came from coexistence models of the 1980s in the Middle East and Africa. Neve Shalom ~ Wahat as-Salam (Oasis of Peace) is a village where Jewish and Palestinian Israeli families live and learn together. Koinonia, Southern Africa, founded by Reverend Nico Smith during apartheid years, gathered thousands of brave Blacks and White to share meals and stories, sometimes in public at risk to their lives. Both initiatives were honored together during the San Francisco 1989 Beyond War Award Ceremony. The word Koinonia means “belonging together” or “communion by intimate participation”.

From 2003-2007, the Dialogue group partnered with Camp Tawonga over five years to bring hundreds of adults and youth from 50 different towns in Palestine and Israel to successfully live and communicate together at the Palestinian-Jewish Family Peacemakers Camp — Oseh Shalom – Sanea al-Salam.

Since 2007, six how-to documentary films have been created. The most useful has been the 2012 Dialogue in Nigeria: Muslims & Christians Creating Their Future. The films all stream freely online, and over 13,000 DVDs have been requested from from all continents and every U.S. state including citizens from 2,594 institutions, 2,601 cities, in 82 nations.

Which dialogue and deliberation approaches did you use or borrow heavily from?

  • Sustained Dialogue
  • Compassionate Listening
  • Bohm Dialogue

What was your role in the project?
We co-founded and hosted the first 1992 gatherings in our home. With monthly 2-1/2 hour meetings now rotating among different participants’ homes, we continue to shepherd both the original San Mateo group (254 meetings) and the San Francisco gatherings (172 meetings).

What issues did the project primarily address?

  • Interfaith conflict
  • Race and racism
  • Education
  • Human rights

Lessons Learned
1. Time, Dedication, and Patience are required for successful Sustained Dialogue, trust, learning to listen, relationship-healing, and collective cooperation and creativity.

2. Beginning a Dialogue — finding paticipants and convening the first meeting — requires inordinate totality, time, and persistence.

3. Sustaining an ongoing group also requires a person or core team with a vision and “religious” dedication to the people.

Where to learn more about the project:
FILM — 20 Years of Palestinian-Jewish Living Room Dialogue (1992-2012)
http://archive.org/details/20YearsOfPalestinian-jewishLivingRoomDialogue

Several hundred outreach activities
http://traubman.igc.org/dg-prog.htm

Six of the Dialogue’s how-to documentary films
http://traubman.igc.org/vids2007.htm

Group Decision Tip: Credit the Group

In principle, members of high-functioning groups are focused on the success of the group as a whole rather than on who should get credit or blame within the group. Harry Truman said, “It is amazing what you can do if you do not care who gets the credit.” Similarly, groups get more done when unconcerned with assigning blame.

Group Decision Tips IconRather than spend energy accounting for past individual credit or blame, it is better to invest lessons from the past into future good group decisions. When I believe in my group I know that, over the long run, what is good for the group will be good for me—probably better for me than I could ever have achieved on my own.

Practical Tip: Give your ideas and efforts to the group without conditions, without lingering ownership. Welcome contributions from others without jealousy, without resentment. Show public appreciation for others in your group. Own your share of things gone wrong and credit the group for things gone right.

A mark of a high-functioning team is that each member wants to make other members look good.

The Newest NIF Issue Guide: Bridging and Bonding

NIF-logoWe encourage you to take a few moments to find out more about the latest issue guide from the National Issues Forum Institute. The new guide, titled “Bridging and Bonding: How Can We Create Engaged Communities in a Time of Rapid Change?”, is a collaborative effort between the General Federation of Women’s Clubs and the Kettering Foundation that is designed to help guide conversations about creating better connected and integrated neighborhoods, towns, and communities despite contemporary challenges and shifting divisions.

This excerpt from the introduction gets to the heart of what this newest guide is about:

Changing economic conditions and technological innovations, including the ever-increasing pervasiveness of mass and social media, have transformed our personal lives and our communities. This has affected how families interact, how and where we work, and how we form and maintain relationships, both public and private. Today individuals may bond more strongly with an online community or colleagues at work than with their neighbors. The blurring of distinctions between work and home, made possible by technology, consumes time once spent on social and civic pursuits. Public spaces and even our own neighborhoods don’t seem as safe as they used to be. And a lack of trust in others makes bridging differences between those with differing social, political, religious, or cultural beliefs and experiences more challenging.

What we need to deliberate about is this: how can we create engaged communities in a time of such rapid change?

As with other NIF guides, three options for moving forward are laid out for further deliberation.  The guide challenges participants to deliberate and decide on one of three courses of action:

  • Option 1: Embrace Change and Affirm Differences
  • Option 2: Strengthen and Renew Traditional Ways of Connecting
  • Option 3: Meet People Where They Are

For a deeper look at how we might weigh these options, check out the NIF’s full blog post about the guide here: www.nifi.org/news/news_detail.aspx?itemID=24688&catID=23664.

You can also find more issue materials, including moderator guides and questionnaires at this link: http://www.nifi.org/issue_books/detail.aspx?catID=15&itemID=24676.

Happy reading, and best of luck as you move forward engaging your communities in deliberation about how to better bridge gaps and bond with each other for the common good!